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Flying in a New Direction

Published September 12, 2012 by Patty Brisben

Never underestimate the power of growth. Growth is what pushes us to reach new heights.

Case in point: The Wright brothers’ first flight lasted twelve seconds. Twelve. If it took me twelve seconds to log into my email, I would think something was wrong. But at one time, twelve seconds was revolutionary.

Think of all the places you would have never gone if we had stopped at twelve seconds, if the Wright brothers and other inventors said, “Twelve seconds. Not bad. Let’s get dinner.” Without the growth of engineering, I would have never made it to Alaska, South Africa, or Australia without enduring a difficult and dangerous boat ride. It makes me cringe just thinking about it.

What can we learn from the Wright brothers and other agents of change? To stay a student. To never settle for good enough. To never stop growing. The desire to improve, to grow, has always burned inside of me. It still does.

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Take Pure Romance as an example. When I was hosting parties in my basement, I never once thought that I hit my peak. I knew I had not reached my ceiling. I refused to settle for a twelve-second flight.

I believed in what I was doing, and I saw the positive impact I was making on the women around me. I heard about the fun customers were having at parties, and saw the pride in the first Consultants’ eyes as they described how they were earning enough money to pay the mortgage and give their kids the birthdays they deserved. Even then, as I was gaining personal and professional momentum, I still fanned the flames of growth.

Today, Pure Romance is flying high. We have climbed to a place beyond even my imagination. I have been fortunate enough to share the fruits of my labor with my children so they never have to live a life full of twelve-second flights. Still, I have pushed for growth. Pure Romance now operates overseas and we have worked to broaden research into women’s sexual health.

For most people this would be enough. They would sit back and think the plane can’t fly any longer or any higher. Not me. I can still grow, and this blog is the perfect place to do that. I want to use this blog as a forum to share my experiences, thoughts, and opinions about modern womanhood.

Talking with other women always humbles me. They share their dreams, their desires, and their fears. They see that I have designed a life that I love, and they want me to teach them to do the same. I want to add this personal touch to my blog, but I will need your help.

So I ask you, what do you want me to blog about? What issues would you like me to discuss to help you grow and live a happy, well-rounded life? Please leave me your thoughts in the comments section below.

Thank you for your patience, your insight, and your support as I reinvent my blog to better serve you.




Menopause and The Patty Brisben Foundation for Women’s Sexual Health

Published November 14, 2011 by Patty Brisben

This post is part two in my series about the Patty Brisben Foundation for Women’s Sexual Health. Click here to read the first post.

Did you know that starting at an average age of 51, a woman could expect to live more than a third of her life in post-menopausal years? Did you also know that when it comes to perimenopause and menopause, women suffer sexual side effects?

Considering that every woman must go through this phase, funding for further research into what exactly happens to a woman sexually and what she can do to solve this is imperative. A woman going through perimenopause and menopause experiences symptoms such as hot flashes, night sweats, sleep disturbances, heart palpitations, vaginal thinning, depression, and decreased libido. With the Patty Brisben Foundation for Women’s Sexual Health, I’d like to ease women of their concern regarding their sex lives during and post-51 years old.

The Patty Brisben Foundation supports Sexual Health and Menopause, an online educational program that can be found at menopause.org. Sexual Health and Menopause is designed to share information with the millions of women entering menopause (and their partners) who want to get a handle on what menopause might mean for their sex lives. Although most women experience some changes in sexual function as they age, menopause and aging certainly do not signal the end of a woman’s sex life. Because of the thinning of the vagina, pain or tightness may begin to accompany intercourse. Dryness may also affect a woman during this time, and resources such as the Sexual Health and Menopause guide can help couples get over these hurdles.

Unfortunately, when this happens to women, we tend to dismiss these issues and therefore allow a lack of intimacy to become normal. However, if women are given accurate, supportive advice and recommendations from doctors who have become well versed in the latter part of a woman’s sexual life, defaulting to a lackluster sex life doesn’t have to happen. While there is no “normal,” woman-to-woman, there need to be answers to questions that will help women achieve what they want sexually. Women’s sexual lives from perimenopause to post-menopausal years can no longer be ignored, especially considering the fact that one of the largest populations, baby boomers, are now in the perimenopausal stage.

Women have a gift of masterfully handling whatever their child’s or husband’s crisis may be. When it comes to her own, though, she tends to have a, “get it done, move on,” approach. With your sexual health, I urge women to pause. Take a moment to listen to your body. Think about what your body is telling you. Do you need to seek medical help or advice? If so, act upon it. Now is not the time to push your troubles aside. Now is the time to listen, learn, and thrive. With continued research and funding, the Patty Brisben Foundation for Women’s Sexual Health is here to help.

*Disclaimer: I am not a doctor. With the assistance from doctors on our Board combined with research, the blog posts this month have been created.

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November Focus: The Patty Brisben Foundation for Women’s Sexual Health

Published November 1, 2011 by Patty Brisben

This month we’re going to get heavy. As I’ve learned, with great power comes great responsibility, and I take my responsibility very seriously. When I founded Pure Romance, I set out with the goal to empower, educate, and entertain. Taking education further and allowing my responsibility to take precedence, I started something about which I am extremely passionate.

In 2006, I founded the Patty Brisben Foundation for Women’s Sexual Health (PBF). To me, it was completely startling that there is a huge lack of training and research available to women and healthcare providers on women’s sexual dysfunction. Can you believe that the average healthcare provider receives around only 10 hours of training in human sexuality? I can’t either, but it’s the truth. And that’s where the PBF steps in.

We help fund research that allows the millions of women experiencing sexual health discomfort and disease to seek help and to seek a solution. It’s important to acknowledge that every adult woman is susceptible to any of the four conditions the PBF has focused on: Vulvovaginal Pain Disorders; sexual health issues related to perimenopause or menopause; intimacy-related sexual dysfunction after cancer therapy; and libido, desire, and pleasure.

Most recently, I co-wrote an e-book, Sexy Ever After: Intimacy Post-Cancer, based on findings from a study the PBF funded. In a study the largest of its kind to date, of young breast cancer survivors, 95% indicated that cancer had adversely affected their sexuality. Dr. Keri Peterson and I paired up to assist couples in the bedroom. They are often embarrassed to talk about it, so this helps both patients and doctors start an open conversation about post-cancer sexuality.

Throughout the month of November, I will be blogging about the remaining PBF pillars in honor of our PBF ¡Viva Violeta! Gala on Saturday, November 5. I get so excited for this fundraising event every single year. Not only do we raise money to fund further research, we also celebrate our successes with a fun and fabulous evening in downtown Cincinnati.

Please join me for a month of the topics nearest and dearest to my heart. With more attention, funding, and hope, I know we can help the lives of millions of women.

*Disclaimer: I am not a doctor. With the assistance from doctors on our Board combined with research, the blog posts this month have been created.