Dear Cupid

Published February 7, 2012 by Patty Brisben

Dear Cupid,

I’m writing to you to ask for a little assistance. You are the perfect cherub for the job, as we’re both in this love business together. We’d make a dynamic duo, I swear. We can change the world, one relationship at a time! Before I make my request, let me share a bit of a story with you.

At the beginning of 2012, I had an idea to commit myself to writing down one thing about the day that I’m thankful for. At the end of every night, I write this one thing. I set out doing this to help me see all the good in my life, and to see how the bad can turn out to be good or teach me something new. I believed that by focusing on one good thing every night, I’d see more good in my life all the time.

My decision to do this was confirmed just a few nights ago. I attended a seminar by the esteemed Dr. Andrew Weil. His seminar was about how to be the happiest, healthiest you there is. One of his suggestions was to take one week, carve out a time each day, and write down what you’re thankful for. Dr. Weil referred to studies in which people who kept daily gratitude journals reported more satisfaction of their lives and were more optimistic about their lives. Additionally:

“A third study reproduced the results among a group of people suffering from various neuromuscular diseases, including post-polio syndrome, which has symptoms similar to those in CFS. People using daily gratitude journals reported more satisfaction with their lives and were more optimistic about the future than the control group. Interestingly, the gratitude group also reported getting more sleep, spending less time awake before falling asleep and feeling more refreshed in the morning.”

Dr. Weil  and this research reaffirmed my belief in what I was doing with my own gratitude journal, but what he was saying made me think about more than just an individuals life. I thought, “What if this was applied to relationships?” I truly believe this could be the key to better couples’ relationships.

Cupid, this month, please give couples around the globe an assignment to write down one thing they’re thankful for about the other person each day. Our world is so negative that we’re constantly seeking happiness. What we don’t do, though, is actively try to remove the negativity; we simply look for something else. By writing out what one is thankful for in their significant other, it helps bring satisfaction to the relationship. When you focus on the good, there will be more good in your life and in your relationship.

It’s a simple, proven solution. It helps individuals appreciate their lives more—it could help couples appreciate their significant others more, too. I know that with your help, we can make this happen! So are you in?

Thanks,

Patty

2 comments on “Dear Cupid

  • THANK YOU, PATTY! These constant brief writs on achieving happiness and tips to be a more positive person are truly treasured on my behalf… I promise to share this information with everyone I know here in our small island Puerto Rico.

    Regards,
    Graciela Muniz aka Grace

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