How many times have you been in a mall or the grocery store and saw a couple affectionately strolling along, yet wondered, “How in the world did those two get together??” It may be your May-December romance or just your everyday Odd Couple, but whatever the case there’s usually some bystander looking on with a creased forehead and a raised eyebrow.
I just got to thinking about this after the recent hoopla surrounding this past season of ABC’s The Bachelor. There aren’t many people who have missed the media circus around Jake Pavelka and his fiancée Vienna Girardi with many people passing judgment on whether he chose the right girl or if it is even for real.
Although Reality Television is seldom real, it does raise one important point when it comes to love and romance, and that is who are we to judge the unique chemistry that drives two people to fall in love or even lust, for that matter? One thing that struck me while I was watching the Bachelor finale post show was when Tinley asked why if he loved her he felt something was missing. His response was that “there just wasn’t that spark”.
When it comes to intimate relationships we know often know our partners in a way that is so different from any other person. There is no way to describe it, package it, or even understand it ourselves, at times. This is especially true for those of us who have found ourselves head over heels in love with a person who doesn’t even remotely fit our idea of our “physical type”. Superficial things that may have turned us off in the past, such as a beard, a paunch stomach, a certain hair color, etc., can all fall to the wayside when raw chemistry steps up to the plate.
Even if I don’t necessarily agree with Jake’s decision or if they, like many Bachelor couples in the past, fail to live happily ever after, the important thing is if they are staying true to their feelings; you can’t let what others think affect your relationship – especially when it comes to matters of the heart! I do wish them the best and the same for any couple who is truly seeking pure romance.
So many are searching for (or already have) a connection with another human being and more than anything they are looking to bond on a deeper level. When you’ve found that feeling it’s even more important to nurture it; that’s what’s so great about Pure Romance. We lose or bury that spark in bills, responsibilities, and day-to-day mundane activities in our life. One of the things we want to constantly remind people is to always take time to remember the feelings you had in the beginning (emotionally, mentally and physically) and foster them throughout your relationship! Just remember, when you find it, cherish it; it won’t grow on its own without any help from you and your partner especially as the years go by.
Below is a list of some offbeat couples (actual and fictional) through history that have surprised many whether it survived the test of time, or not…
Harrison Ford and Calista Flockhart
Harold and Maude (Harold & Maude)
Mariah Carey and Nick Cannon
Julia Roberts and Danny Moder
Lloyd and Diane (Say Anything)
Celine Dion and Rene Angelil
Ted Danson and Whoopi Goldberg
Kate Hudson and Chris Robinson
Heidi Klum and Seal
Jerry Lee Lewis and Myra Lewis
Michael Jackson and Lisa Marie Presley
Anna Nicole Smith and J. Howard Marshall