I recently took some down-time and invited some extended family to spend some time with me. During our trip, one of my guests shared that she had a close friend whose husband had just suddenly died of cancer. This got us talking about the difficulties and hardships people experience in life and how intimacy often understandably comes to a screeching halt. This could be a death of a close partner or a terrible break-up (which, let’s face it, sometimes feels just like mourning a death).
Bedroom accessories are not just for novelty or spicing up relationships. They can also be a wonderful tool for someone who has just lost a partner through death, divorce or a break-up and can keep you from falling into the all too easy trap of the “Rebound”. After all, how many of us have heard of the saying that “the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else”. So often people jump into new relationships because they miss the intimacy they have lost. But they are doing themselves a major injustice. This should be a time that you are working on yourself and figuring out what went wrong and what you can do to grow from the experience and change for the better. It may be tempting to grab the first attractive person off the street to meet your intimate needs, but it’s important to take time to heal.
Just because you are taking time to yourself to discover your needs doesn’t mean you shouldn’t have intimacy in your life. This is where bedroom accessories can be a wonderful way to still have intimacy and sensual pleasure in your life. It also keeps you from getting caught up in a whirlwind of partners which sends mixed messages and messes with your head. It’s hard for many women to truly be detached when it comes to casual sex and makes you feel even worse afterwards if you aren’t completely emotionally stable. Even worse, it opens you up to the risk of Sexually Transmitted Infections (even with the use of condoms). Your body should mean more to you than that.
For those of you who had the pleasure of watching one of my favorite movies, It’s Complicated, you probably remember the scene where Meryl Streep’s character is catching up with friends and one says she heard that “if you don’t use it, you lose it”. There actually is truth to this statement and many healthcare providers recommend bedroom accessories and Dilator Sets as a way to combat vaginal atrophy, which is another reason why it’s important to use toys when you don’t currently have a partner.