One only need to turn on the news to know it’s a tough time for a lot of hard-working people across the country; what many don’t know is that this can really take a toll on your personal life as well as your sex life…especially your libido. Your libido is your sexual desire or sex drive; everyone has one, and everyone’s is different. Your libido can change numerous times over your lifetime and can be affected by changes throughout your lifetime. It’s not uncommon during challenging times to notice a decrease in your libido or your partner’s libido.
Men are inherently the bread-winners, the “hunters” and the providers. When there is a threat to their primary role within a relationship or family, such as losing their job, it can be very stressful and lead to a decreased libido. The most basic symptom of a low libido is having no desire for sexual activity. If you think you have a low sex drive and this is not normal for you, it is important to consult your health care provider to determine the cause for the decrease in sexual desire and to rule out a serious health issue.
Women are also affected by low libido. Changes in hormone levels from pregnancy and childbirth and keeping up with a busy family life can affect a woman’s libido. As the role of “nurturer”, a woman’s role in a family and relationship can cause fatigue and a lack of time for intimacy which can directly affect her libido.
There are many different reasons why a person’s libido can be impacted. Below are some other contributors that can impact a man or woman’s libido.
• Menopause – A decline in estrogen levels can affect a woman’s libido
• Dyspareunia – Painful sexual intercourse
• Vaginismus – The involuntary contraction/spasm of the vaginal muscles, which makes penetration difficult, if not impossible
• Pregnancy, childbirth, and breastfeeding—Changes in hormone levels can increase or decrease sexual desire
• Infections – Yeast infections, urinary tract infections, or a sexually transmitted infection could affect a person’s libido
• Problems with orgasm – Being unable to reach orgasm or to reach it within a reasonable period of time
• Illness – Certain illnesses and their medications can alter a person’s libido
• Depression – Lack of motivation, feeling sad, and withdrawing from activities, including sex
• Performance anxiety – A fear of painful sex, or pressure to have sex or reach orgasm can decrease libido
• Fatigue – Being too tired to have sex
• Lack of time – Busy schedules could leave insufficient time for intimacy
• Familiarity – It is not uncommon for a couple’s desire for sex to decrease over time
• Relationship problems – Difficulties in a relationship can make a couple’s sexual desire suffer
• Stress – Stress hormones can dampen sexual desire and response
• Certain drugs – Antidepressants, oral contraceptive pills, and certain other prescription drugs, as well as illegal drugs and excessive alcohol use, can lower a person’s libido
• Exercise – Too much or too little can affect the libido
• Traumatic experience – Sexual harassment, sexual abuse, or rape can have an impact on your libido
For men, if you find that you have a decreased libido, you may want to try an arousal cream. X-Scream was created to help stimulate blood flow and increase arousal for both men and women. Our only unisex arousal cream, X-Scream is formulated with a mint compound powerful enough for men. To use, take a pea-sized amount and visually divide it into thirds. Apply one small section to the head of the penis, one directly under the penis and the third to the testicles (only if your partner enjoys having this area stimulated) for increased arousal.
For women, we also recommend our arousal creams, Ex-T-Cee and Nympho Niagra and X-Scream. Ex-T-Cee is recommended for first time users of an arousal cream. If you are sensitive or prone to yeast infections, Nympho Niagra is odorless, colorless, flavorless and safe for even the most sensitive women. X-Scream is not recommended for first-time female users, unless the woman is taking medications with sexual side effects (such as anti-depressants or anti-anxiety medication) or is experiencing a loss of sensation due to stress, surgery or other factors. Apply a pea-sized amount to the clitoris during foreplay. This product works by opening the blood vessels in the genitals, increasing blood flow to this area and heightening feelings in the nerve endings. It is also important to use a water-based vaginal lubricant each time you engage in sexual activity. Try Just Like Me or Sweet Seduction, which are both gentle and non-irritating.
You can also talk to your Pure Romance Consultant or visit our Web site for more information about your libido and which products may be right for you.