When you are in a relationship it is so easy to look at the single life and remember how much fun it once was, but as I’ve always said, “The grass may be greener on the other side, but that usually means there’s just more to mow!”
Singles often get caught up in the games and fear of rejection that sometimes come along with dating, and lose sight of the “fun” they should be having. In addition, society puts a strong emphasis on the importance of finding “The One” which places added pressure on your new relationship, and dating in general. For those single ladies out there, I’ve provided some key points for keeping the dating scene fun!
You both are on an interview:
I have always told my own children that dating is similar to going on an interview. However, you shouldn’t stress too much because when you go on a date you are both the interviewee and the interviewer. Think about it this way, when you go in for an interview you dress your best, you turn on the charm and speak as articulately as possible, you discuss your best assets and characteristics; you are essentially selling yourself while being respectful of the person interviewing you. But, this is where it can get tricky. If you go in to a date thinking that you have to sell yourself, you tend to talk more about yourself and fail to listen to what the other person has to say. Make sure you interview your date as well. When they ask you a question, answer it and reciprocate the question for them to answer.
Relax and be yourself:
Often times we focus on the end result of dating instead of enjoying the journey. This happens all too often in the bedroom, but it can happen in dating as well. Don’t concentrate on whether or not this person will fit into your future, or vice versa. Sit back, relax, take comfort in the fact that you look your best, and engage in a fun “get to know you” conversation. Keep in mind that even if this person doesn’t end up being “The One”, you might just make a new friend. And, you never know, this new “friend” probably has other single friends! Keep your networking options open.
Don’t put all your eggs in one basket:
When you find someone you are interested in seeing again, remember to continue “dating” them. You still don’t know the person very well, or well enough to establish a committed relationship. It’s all about balance. You have an independent life outside of the dating realm, and so does the new person you are dating. So enjoy your friends, continue to participate in your hobbies, and do not revolve your schedule around someone new. This is the best part about dating; allowing the other person to see what the rhythm of your life is like, and if things are going well enough, introducing that person to your circle of friends. Don’t focus all of your energy on this one person. Like the saying goes, there are plenty of fish in the sea. Swim around a bit and check out your options!
Patience is Virtue:
Stressing out during the first dating encounter can be unattractive. When you first start dating someone, observation and time is all you need to answer the questions you might have. For instance, if you are planning on meeting somewhere for your first date and your date is running late, give them five to ten minutes. Grab a drink at the bar and engage in conversation with people sitting around you. Don’t be preoccupied with where they are, what they are doing and what their lateness actually means in terms of their level of interest. This will give them the idea that you are laid back and relaxed, which is an attractive quality in such a fast paced world. As I mentioned before, make sure to take notice because factors such as their late behavior, how they handle it, and if it’s reoccurring, might answer the long-term question of whether or not this person is right for you.
Choose the location of your date with care:
Dating is all about getting to know the other person, so going to a movie will make that feat a difficult one. Make sure to include the other person in on the decision making process. Ask them where they would like to meet. If you aren’t sure how the date will turn out, schedule a simple drinks-and-appetizers-date, which can remain short and sweet, but can be extended if things are going well. If you want to make it as quick as possible because of your busy schedule, inform your date and meet for coffee or a quick lunch.
Create a pre-date ritual:
Preparing for a first date can be a little stressful, so engage in tranquil activities prior to your date to help you relax. You can start by pampering yourself with a nice long bath. The hot water will relax your muscles and soothe your mind. Afterwards, I recommend using Pure Romance’s Kiss, a body splash that smells fresh and clean. You can keep this product in your refrigerator to make it cold. After a hot bath it will refresh warm skin and invigorate your senses, while making you smell wonderful as well. Using a pheromone based perfume will derive your natural scent, bringing your own pheromones, or natural sexual attractant, to a different peak. Pure Romance’s Basic Instinct is a great pheromone based perfume that can make you feel more confident, and your date will more than likely notice! Pure Romance has a variety of beauty products that can help you get ready for your big night. Visit www.pureromance.com to shop around for the perfect pampering products for you!
Life can get hectic, so try not to allow dating to add to that stress. Focus on the fun and excitement associated with dating. You only have control over yourself and your own actions so don’t try to control the situation, and definitely don’t stress over what the other person is thinking or doing. It is absolutely normal to stress before a date, but try to take pleasure in the process of dating, because even if there isn’t a “love connection,” you might spark up a new friendship. And if the date fails miserably, you still walk away with a funny story to tell your friends! So relax, be confident and enjoy the journey.