Between The Sheets

When was the last time someone told you to hydrate your vagina? Don’t worry about reaching for your reading glasses. You read it right. I would venture to guess it wasn’t any time very recent (if at all!). The truth is no one ever talks to us about it.

Think about it: every woman out there at some time or another has had someone remind them of the importance of taking care of their skin. After all, how many of us have been walking in the mall when someone at a kiosk shouts out, “What moisturizers do you use on your face?” or “Do you want to know how to look 10 years younger?” Not surprising questions considering that many women do use special facial creams and regiments to ensure that their skin is hydrated and in good health. Yet, what people don’t realize is that every part of your party ages and goes through different types of changes and stress. Why should your vagina be any different?

Have you ever lied in bed one night while being intimate with a partner and felt like your mind was there but your body was not? What people don’t realize is that there are so many causes for vaginal dryness including childbirth, menopause, medications, etc. – common occurrences in everyday life. It’s so important not to confuse lubricants with vaginal moisturizers as a way to treat this.

Pure Romance’s Fresh Start is a wonderful product that can help counteract vaginal dryness. It is an estrogen-free vaginal moisturizer, making it great for all women, including those women who cannot or do not want to use hormone replacements. It is gentle and non-irritating and helps alleviate vaginal dryness, as well as the discomfort that accompanies this condition.

It is common for women of all ages to experience vaginal dryness at some point in their life, or even within their menstrual cycle. Vaginal dryness is most common among women going through menopause, due to the decrease in estrogen that occurs at this time. Estimates vary, but as many 40% of menopausal women may experience vaginal dryness.

To use Fresh Start, fill one of the included applicators with the vaginal moisturizer and insert into the vagina, applying the liquid as far into the vaginal canal as possible. The best time to use Fresh Start is before bedtime, allowing the product ample time to absorb into the vaginal tissues. Many women find it helpful to use the product everyday for a week to 10 days, until the start to see their symptoms decrease. After that time, women can use the product two to three times a week as part of a maintenance program, to keep their vaginal tissues moisturized and prevent vaginal dryness.

So next time a girlfriend asks you what you’ve done lately to take care of your face or skin, maybe you should ask them what they’ve done to hydrate their vagina! You may get a surprised look, but you’ll be doing your part to educate someone on this very important issue!

I recently interviewed with Dayton News regarding my thoughts on a new book called “Why Women Have Sex.” The book was written by clinical psychologist, Cindy Meston and evolutionary psychologist, David Buss, and includes interviews of over 1,000 women from all over the world. In doing so, they discovered 237 different reasons that women have sex. Surprisingly to some, love was not at the top of the list.

There’s always been a double standard when it comes to sexual motivation for women vs. men; however, in the 25 years I’ve been working with women and couples, I’ve found that one of the biggest intimacy issues that we come across with our customers is libido. Women aren’t the only ones who are tired from the stress and anxiety that has come from living in such a fast-paced society. I can’t tell you how many women have written in to my Ask Patty column asking how they can get their husbands and boyfriends more in the mood.

Sexual motivation can vary from person to person and the most important thing is that partners are being honest with one another about their desires and needs. In the video above, there were some responses such as “I do it so I can go to sleep or he will leave me alone.” Treating sex in this way is truly doing an injustice to you and your partner. Sexuality should be enjoyed and is an integral part of life; men and women should make an effort to create more pleasure when it comes to their intimate experience, whether by exploring new avenues of intimacy or opening the doors of communication through “intimate” tools and education.

If you find that you’re one of these women who is using sex for anything other than a way to express love and pleasure, it may be time to learn more about how you can take your intimate relationships to the next level.

I’m so excited to share that I was awarded the Key to Loveland today I can’t tell you what an honor it was to have the city in which Pure Romance is headquartered embrace, understand and appreciate the work we are doing to support and empower women and couples everywhere.

To my surprise, the Loveland City Manager and Loveland Area Chamber informed me that this award has only been presented to one other person in the last eight years. I truly thought I was invited to speak and share the Pure Romance story as part of a luncheon preceding a Loveland Expo at Receptions and was unexpectedly honored following my presentation.

I can’t tell you how many times in our travels and in interviews people have been so tickled by the fact that Pure Romance’s headquarters reside in “LOVE-LAND”. They honestly believe the city was named after Pure Romance or vice versa. It’s truly a perfect fit and we couldn’t ask for a better place to hang our corporate hat.

What an amazing day!

One of my favorite local events is the Breast Cancer Brick Auction which just took place this past weekend. The fundraiser features brick-art which is auctioned to benefit breast cancer research, advocacy and patient support in Greater Cincinnati.

‘Bricks Along the Journey’ was begun by Ellen Bernstein Ganson, who, after being diagnosed with breast cancer, channeled her frustration into creating an event that would benefit breast cancer patients and breast cancer research. Local artists were excited to contribute to the cause and today there are over 200 artists who contribute their time and talent to transform crumbled and castaway bricks into beautiful works of art.

Here is the brick that I auctioned on and won called “Waiting”.

Below are some additional pieces. To learn more or see past collections go to www.breastcancerbricks.org.

Growing up in the 60s and 70s, we were always bombarded by the Noxzema commercials and I was fortunate enough to be dubbed the “Noxzema Girl” by a lot of friends and family. Whether it was washing my makeup off before bed or investing in facial creams for dry skin, I had been blessed with healthy skin and learned early on the importance of preserving it.

I’ve always believed that if you’ve been given a gift or positive attribute, you should do your best to take care of it! Starting with a great skin regiment is so important, which is why I was thrilled to recently bring on the new Pure Romance Daily Facial Care Set.

I had actually been using the products from this set for several years prior to bringing it on as part of the Pure Romance line. Throughout my travels, I’ve had the pleasure of visiting some of the most renowned spas in the world and time after time the estheticians would refrain from recommending the facials! They would tell me that whatever product I was using I needed to continue doing so. I also discovered that this same exact facial set was being sold in many of these upper-echelon spas for upwards of $350 and $400. Pure Romance is about offering high quality products at practical prices which is why we are excited to announce that we are offering this set for only $85.

If you don’t pamper yourself already, it’s time to start. Women are often so busy taking care of everyone else, we sometimes forget to take care of ourselves – and it shows! I can’t tell you how many women write into me every day and talk about how they don’t take care of themselves and how it directly affects their self-image and intimate relationships. I believe one of the best ways to increase excitement in the bedroom is to make time to pamper yourself.

We are so excited that Pure Romance has introduced this product and that we are able to give back to women and ensure that when they look in the mirror they will feel both healthy and beautiful.

As many of you know, Pure Romance has been taking part in Empowerment Summits throughout the country training and empowering our Consultants to take their businesses to the next level. During this all day training I get the opportunity to do what I love to do: educate our Consultants about Pure Romance’s products. This past Empowerment Summit I attended, some of the Consultants raised very important questions they receive from their customers regarding our lubricants.

Below are some of those questions and answers which I will hope shed some light on this must-have product.

Q: What is the difference from a Pure Romance lubricant and a lubricant that I can buy at the grocery store?
A: The first major difference between a Pure Romance lubricant and one that you can buy at the grocery store is the privacy you receive when purchasing our products. You don’t run the risk of running into your boss or one of your children’s teachers when you are purchasing a Pure Romance lubricant. The second difference is the quality of our lubricants. I make sure that Pure Romance lubricants are of the highest quality. The lubricants sold in grocery and drug stores have a high concentration of ingredients that can often irritate the skin over time. Pure Romance has the lowest amount of these ingredients. We formulate our lubricants for all women, even those who are highly sensitive.

Q: If a customer has sensitive skin but wants to try a flavored lubricant what should I tell her? A: We carry two different types of lubricants: our every day lubricants and our playful lubricants. Our every day lubricants are gentle and formulated for women who are sensitive. I would advise a woman who has sensitive skin to stick with an every day lubricant. If she wants to try a playful lubricant, I would advise her to place a pea size amount on the inside of her elbow before bed. If she wakes up rash free then she should be okay to experiment with the playful lubricant during intimate activities.

Q: Do lubricants affect a woman’s fertility?
A: Lubricants do not “kill” sperm, or else they would be listed as a form of contraception. However, lubricants can decrease the concentration and mobility of sperm in the vagina, but this does not pose a problem for women who aren’t experiencing fertility issues. Lubrication can make intercourse more enjoyable, which may increase the frequency of times you try to conceive, which can indirectly increase the likelihood of conception.

To learn more about the lubricants we offer, go to the Lubricant section of the PureRomance.com website.

For those of you who were watching football this past weekend, you probably noticed the pink gloves, sneakers, ball cap bills and the like – all in support of breast cancer awareness. It’s officially Breast Cancer Awareness Month and it’s SO important to get out and do your part for this important cause!

I kicked off the month at the Pink Ribbon Luncheon at the Duke Energy Center Thursday, October 1st, where Pure Romance was a sponsor. The Luncheon was preceded by a women’s health-themed panel which featured 7 local physician experts answering many of the common questions asked by their female patients.

Chris Collingsworth emceed the “Gems and Jeans” event which featured adorable country-themed table centerpieces (blackberry cameras don’t always do it justice!)

and headlined with a concert by two-time Grammy award winning country music singer and songwriter Lee Ann Womack. She did quite a few of her songs and some covers (my favorite cover was “Help Me Make It Through the Night”). And of course, the song she is most famous for and so many of us love, “I Hope You Dance”:

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The Pink Ribbon Luncheon has raised more than 1.4 million dollars over the past 8 years for the Pink Ribbon programs!

Cincy Chic (an online publication for women in Greater Cincinnati) invited us to participate in their third annual Bras with Flair on the Square to promote breast health. Pure Romance and the Patty Brisben Foundation were two of the many organizations excited to decorate bras to raise awareness and funds for this important cause.

For those of you locally who would like to stop by to support this wonderful event, all of the decorated bras will be on display Wednesday, September 30th on Fountain Square during the following times: 7-9 a.m., 11 a.m.-1 p.m. and 4-7 p.m. Attendees and passersby can visit the booths, sign up for a mammogram, get in the Lexus River Center “Cash Cab” to win prizes and also cast their vote for their favorite bra. The top 10 favorite bras will be up for auction – to benefit Susan G Komen For the Cure – at the after party at the Hilton Netherland Plaza from 7-10 p.m.

Below are the two bras we have submitted for this year’s event!

Click below to see photos from previous Bras with Flair Campaigns.
• 2008 Bras with Flair on the Square
• 2007 Bras with Flair on the Square

When it comes to “Ice Ice Baby”, most people think of the early 90s rap star icon OR the one and only, long-loved Pure Romance bedroom toy. Seldom do they think of both together. However, that was exactly the case when Pure Romance Consultant Christy Irwin had the unique idea to take an Ice Ice Baby to rapper, Vanilla Ice’s concert to be autographed and auctioned to raise money for the Patty Brisben Foundation.

While many covet backstage passes to meet the performer, this Consultant acquired one with one passion specifically in mind: to help further research and support for women’s sexual health! How she managed to smuggle such a one-of-a-kind item to be signed, however, is still an interesting scenario to imagine.

Once back stage she discovered the rapper had already had heard there was a bedroom toy named after him but didn’t know which company it was. After she explained the seriousness of the cause, he graciously signed it; it was great that he was able to see the value in taking the time to sign something that “unique” knowing that it would be auctioned off to support women’s sexual health. There are a lot of celebrities out there who wouldn’t take the time and we’re grateful that he did. Christy followed up by sending him another Ice Ice Baby to keep as a collector’s item!

A special thanks to Christy and all of the Consultants who are always looking for ways to support such an important cause!

About the Patty Brisben Foundation: When I first began working as a Consultant, I received many questions regarding intimacy and sexual health; as my parties increased and later after starting my own business, I noticed the questions were becoming more and more complex. I would always surround myself with experts and a support system that could ensure that I was getting my customers the right answers.

The biggest surprise came when even the experts didn’t know the answers and that’s when I realized how little women’s sexual health research there is available. This is when I decided to start the 501c3 non-profit, the Patty Brisben Foundation. Today, Pure Romance Consultants are just as passionate about helping their customers find the answers they need to be empowered in and out of the bedroom. To learn more go to the Patty Brisben Foundation’s website.

Yesterday I had the pleasure of being invited by the Cincinnati Chamber of Commerce’s We Share program to facilitate a roundtable with some of the brightest and most ambitious business women in Cincinnati. The topic of the discussion was balance and how to find a healthy way to incorporate it into your life.

One of the most common questions I was asked was how I was able to manage my business doing in-home parties while raising four young children.

For me, prioritizing time, maintaining organization, and enlisting an assistant when necessary were three things I did consistently. When I started traveling for trainings and conventions, I definitely missed my children. Not to mention there were weekends where I had five parties booked that I didn’t get to tuck them into bed or see their faces as often as I would have liked to, but the business also allowed me to take weekend vacations with them, attend their school and sporting functions and afford a club membership at the pool where we often spent many summer days. Like any business you had to find the balance and there was definitely the bitter and the sweet.

The key is to plan and define what your needs and your family’s needs are and remember your “why” during those moments. When I started to wonder if all of the hard work was worth it, I would look in the mirror and say, “Why are you doing all of this?” My answer was always clear and resounding; I worked my business to provide the best possible life for my children. I recruited other women often and provided them with the best possible training because I felt I was in a position to empower them financially, and in turn empower the women who attended their parties by giving them the best information out there to enhance their intimate lives. My “why” remains consistent to this day: I want to empower women intellectually, financially, and physically, and I want to provide the same opportunity to my children.

It isn’t necessarily how I did it; it is why I did it all. I have been able to educate and empower women and I am blown away by the amount of women I am able to reach now that my company has grown so large. When I was at my busiest I would think of my children and it would motivate me and ultimately led me to the success I have today. In the process, I taught all four of them the importance of holding on to a work ethic: I am happy to come to work every day now and see them diligently and passionately working for the same cause I have pursued over the past 26 years!